Hey, remember that post I wrote called “Girl, You Deserve Better”? It meant the world to me—not just because of the writing, but because of what came after. I received messages from amazing women around the world. I was even invited by a female-focused blogging site to write for them. That post changed my life—and today, I found it again. I knew I had to re-share it. Real talk on love, boundaries, and self-worth to help you build stronger, healthier relationships.
Hi everyone! is was so good to be here and meeting so many amazing bloggers! Today was feeling so much better and still looking for inspiration to write more blog posts. here i going to share my favorite one with you guys and i hope you all enjoy it
💭 Girl, You Deserve Better
Happy Saturday! I hope you’re having a beautiful day. Today, I want to talk a little about relationships. I’ve never really shared my thoughts on this topic before, even though I often see people discussing it in group chats on social media. I usually just stay silent, but today I’d like to offer a few thoughts from my heart.
I know that in this world, there are so many different types of people, it is really difficult to understand everyone’s favourite (such as personal things), but you know? Becoming a relationship is not just because of “likes.” Don’t get me wrong, “like” You can definitely like so many people at the same time, you will feel very happy, enjoy, relax together (but for me, I will call it “friendship” instead of “Relationship”) Many people think about feelings. The first thing that comes to mind is that if they really like someone, they will first consider (this should be a kind of “relationship”?) and it starts, that is also easy for people to break up. The main reason? Because they still don’t understand each other’s personalities. When you find everything is wrong, this can be hurting. So this is why I want to write some suggestions for today.
❤️ 1. A Relationship Is More Than Just Feelings
You can like someone and still not be right for each other. You can feel excited, connected, even relaxed—but that doesn’t always equal a healthy relationship.
Friendship is one thing. Partnership is another. When people rush into relationships based only on feelings, they often skip the important part: getting to know each other deeply.
And when that reality hits, breakups happen. Not because of hate—but because the foundation was never strong.
🎬 2. Expectations vs. Reality in Love
We’ve all done it—daydreamed about the kind of love we see in movies. Romantic gestures, perfect timing, fairy-tale endings.
But girl, let’s be honest: fantasy is not the same as reality. And that’s okay.
Some people get their movie moment. Most of us don’t. That doesn’t mean we won’t experience love—it just means we need to stop expecting fantasy and start recognizing healthy reality.
🗣️ 3. Communication Is Everything
If you want a relationship to last, you have to talk. Honestly. Kindly. Often.
Even if you’re someone who finds it hard to express emotions, it’s so important to open up and share your thoughts.
And when you do talk—make sure it’s not about winning the argument. It’s about understanding each other. Respect is always more important than being right.
🙏 4. Real Forgiveness Is Hard—but Necessary
Forgiveness isn’t just about saying “I’m sorry” or “It’s okay.”
It’s about showing that you truly want to grow. That you’re not holding old arguments as weapons in future fights.
Yes, it’s hard. Yes, it takes time. But true forgiveness creates real healing. That’s the kind of energy you deserve in your relationship.
🧍♀️ 5. Be true to yourself, don’t change it for everyone.
Sometimes when we get into a relationship, we will accidentally change our personality, perhaps because we care too much and are afraid of losing. So even if the other party has a lot of shortcomings, you have to be patient and tolerant. Girl you can’t do this! do you know? This is how domestic violence occurs. Never lose yourself by loving someone. Because you deserve better! Especially when he say the rude things and you will totally be happy for it cause he don’t deserve you.
So to all the girls reading this: you deserve better. Not in a bitter way, not in a dramatic way—just in a truthful way. Know your value. Protect your peace. And never forget who you are. No matter what you’ve been through, remember this: girl, you deserve better.
💌 Love,
Someone who’s still learning, growing, and healing with you.
➤ For more relationship advice, check out Psychology Today’s guide on healthy relationships.
➤ Looking for emotional support? Try BetterHelp Online Therapy.
Thanks so much for reading.
Have a beautiful day.
— Jerserry 🌸
What an awesome post! I love it! Glad you shared this again! The points that stuck out to me were 2 Expectations vs. Reality in Love and 5 Be true to yourself. I really relate to those two points. I am definitely one of those girls who has high expectations when it comes to love! I’ve been hoping for perfect man to come into my life and sweep me off my feet! But you’re right. That’s not how life works. Sometimes I wonder if I’ve missed opportunities because I was searching for someone perfect and a situation that’s perfect. No man is perfect. We all have our flaws, and I might never have a fairytale moment. I have to learn to accept these truths.
I used to get bullied a lot in school as a child. Even well into my adulthood the bullying still affects me. I feel as if I need everyone to like me. I need everyone’s approval. Therefore truth is that not everyone is going to like me. Some people just won’t like me no matter what I do. I’m learning to be ok with that.
Thankyou for this beautiful post Jess! It really touched me!
Thank you so much for the long message and is was make me feel so touching as well! I really happy to hear that 😘